Friday 27 March 2009

Find Support For Your Grief Through Others.

Many people make the assumption that when someone has suffered the loss of a relative or close friend, it is better to leave them to grieve alone. The reason for this is that they believe that talking about the person after the funeral has passed will bring back more grief, and make the person feel uncomfortable, or upset them by saying something wrong. This is not usually the case though, and this approach can avoid asking the questions which the bereaved actually want to hear. These people need to cry and become upset, as it is all part of the healing process.

Grieving is actually easier if you do not do it alone. Though family and friends may not instantly offer their support, if you let them know how you are feeling, and how they could help you, then you may be pleasantly surprised about the level of support they then offer.

The are many sources of people that you can talk to about your grief. Friends are an ideal source, as they know you and care about you, and will be willing to take some pressure of you to help you through the hard times. They may also be able to take care of your affairs if it is becoming too much for you. You should tell friends that if you become upset or angry whilst in your company, it is not because of them. If they understand this they will feel more comfortable around you during this time, and you will be more appreciative of them being there.

Although other family members may also be grieving over the same loss, close relatives can also offer each other support. Though pressures will be high, and tensions will be heightened, by keeping in close contact with relatives you can form a healing community together.

If you are a follower of a religion, speaking to people associated with these communities can be of great benefit. They will understand what you are going through, and your faith may become stronger as a result.

Dedicated support groups are another great option for the grieving. These people can also relate to what you are experiencing, and because of this it is possible that they may be able to offer you a type of understanding which you might not fins with others. You can find support groups both locally and through the internet.

If the grief continues, and does not seem to diminish over time, then a therapist or psychiatrist may be a good option. These people are professionally trained on how to understand your grief, then help you move forward in to the healing process, and on with the rest of your life.

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